Funeral readings (also called a eulogy) are a way for loved ones to share feelings and memories about the person who’s passed. Many people find funeral readings a comfort, but there’s no pressure to do a reading if you don’t feel comfortable.
If you do decide that you’d like to do a reading, you might be worried about where to start. There’s no right or wrong way to write a reading and the contents will be deeply personal to you and your loved one. There are some basic guidelines to follow if you’re stuck, so if you’re looking for some help writing a funeral reading, see below for our handy guide.
Where to start
Make a gentle start by thinking about your favourite memory of the deceased. Think about the impact they had on your life and your favourite things about them. It’s a good idea to consider what made them unique – this could be hobbies, music taste, their career – anything that made them who they are.
You could also jot down key life events or things they were proud of. This could be anything from having children, to winning an award or fulfilling a lifelong goal. Talk to friends and family members too if you’re stuck for ideas, they’re bound to have plenty of memories to share.
Some people structure a eulogy in chronological order, beginning with the person’s childhood and working through key stages of their life. You don’t have to do this however; you could choose to focus on one particular memory or write it in the form of a letter to the deceased.
Think about the tone too; do you want it to be formal or more lighthearted? You might also want to include a poem, favourite quote or song lyrics that meant something to the person who’s passed.
Delivering the reading
It’s natural to feel nervous and emotional before a funeral reading, but it can help to practice first. You can do this by yourself in front of the mirror or ask a trusted family member or friend to help you rehearse.
You can choose to deliver the reading in the third person (he, she, they) or you can address the deceased directly (e.g ‘I remember when you…’). Remember to speak slowly and clearly, and don’t be afraid to pause or take a moment if you need to.
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